On March 19, 2011, my relationship with my editor began. We've been through a lot since then, but I wanted to take a quick moment on the five days leading to our official anniversary by saying one thing about my editor that l love. (Wow, that was a run on sentence. Sorry.)
Ok, day 2. Time to get a little more serious. I'm not going to lie, the last few years have not been easy. We've gone through hell and back but in the end we've always come out stronger. It takes a lot of effort to be with someone throughout the toughest moments of their lives but in the end, those who are willing to stand by you no matter how bad things get are the kind of people you should want around. That's what you've been for me, and that is what I've been for you. Living with another human is hard, just in general. Whether that person is a relative, friend, or stranger, it's hard to have every aspect of someone's personal life be criticized. So what if I have papers covering my entire desk? So what if you explode into various articles of clothing as soon as you enter the house? So what if my feet stink? So what if you leave your laptop in the bathroom all the time? We both have a lot of quirks and habits that we've developed over the years but we've managed to learn to deal with each other's as well. That's part of getting to know someone (and part of learning to live with someone). You may not be willing to put up with some of the quirks other people may have but you also may not be as invested in that person.
But we've invested a lot into each other, five years is a long time. You've been there for me through my darkest moments, and I, for you. Through the discovery of your complex PTSD and therapy, through the challenges I've faced with school and work, we've both learned a lot about each other and every moment we've been by each others side has only made us better people. I've learned to be more patient, compassionate, and understanding thanks to you, and you've learned how to live and love thanks to me. There are so many things I admire about you. I know it's hard for you to really understand just how much of an impact you've had on my life, but I promise you it really has been for the best. The things that make up good relationships, romantic or otherwise, are loyalty, commitment, understanding, and communication. The whole point of the first post I made for this week was to brag about how amazing our communication is. ALL WE EVER DO IS TALK, and that's very important for maintaining a good relationship. It took a long time for us to get to that point, hell, I didn't really open up to you for almost an entire year because it was hard for me to express myself with words. Now even if the words I express myself with are nonsense, you still understand me. I trust you, and I don't say that lightly. But you've earned my trust. It hasn't always been this way and there are things that have happened that broke that trust before but you have proven yourself to be worth it, just as I have.
Life itself is made of a multitude of experiences, good and bad, intentional and accidental, meaningful and meaningless, relationships are no different. Yes, I know things will not always be great, but I also know things will not always be bad. So far the bads have been BAD, but they are few and far between and the good moments are the majority. I told myself that as long as that was a truth then we would be ok. Right now, there is nothing that you and I can't do together, as long as we cooperate and listen to one another, as long as we still love each other, then nothing can tear us apart.
As long as I have you, I can conquer the world! Ahahaha!
And as long as I have you, I'm content to be wherever we are. (Preferably at home with our kitties).
No comments:
Post a Comment